I was ghosted by a mentor

hal-paperI was looking over Facebook friends, deciding whether to dump people and I came across this lady who works at one of the major newspaper syndicates. She and I met by accident through social media and she was going to help push me and my comic strip through the syndicate process as she has with others only I screwed it all up. She has ignored me ever since. And I think she would like Hal (shown here) from my new comic strip “Hal and High Water.”

What happened was I did a bunch of 10 With Tom interviews with cartoonists and I happened to interview one of her favorites. She helped get this particular cartoonist published and syndicated and she seems like she is in love with him, at least it appears that way from her Facebook posts, but she did fawn all over him in an online chat.

Well, she saw the interview and asked to befriend me on Facebook. I wondered, “Who the hell is this person wanting to befriend me?” And then I looked her up and saw she worked at the syndicate. I got all excited. I approved her friendship and that was that.

But as I do too often, I’ll approve a friend, someone I have not seen in years, and we don’t interact. We are just there. So I said to myself, “Let me say hello and introduce myself so as not to just have our ‘friendship’ linger.” I sent her a direct message and for the next hour, we had a conversation back and forth on Facebook Messenger.

She asked about my own cartoons and offered to help! She and I spoke about that bitch who works at the syndicate who I told you about before, the one I confronted at ComicCon, and lo and behold, she hates her and she called her every name in the book, using some filthy language! I was shocked and excited. I had an ally. She told me all sorts of gossip about the syndicate and she told me about all the famous cartoonists she has known and I thought, “This is it, I reached my tipping point.” I truly wanted to meet her.

She then told me to send her my comics, printed out in hard copy form. She said she was going on vacation the next day and she would look at them upon her return. So I agreed.

The next morning, she checks in on Facebook in Islamorada, one of the Florida Keys, which is basically in my neighborhood! What should I do? Invite her and her husband for drinks? Coffee? Lunch? I wasn’t sure how to approach it. I had only “met her” online the night before and anything I did or said would obviously look like me reaching out to use her influence. Should I bother her on her vacation or what? I wanted to, but I respected her privacy.

I decided to not say anything. And all that week she posted her adventures on Facebook, she was in my neighborhood for lunch, she went to a museum, they went fishing, they really did it all and me, I stayed silent. I didn’t even “like” her posts. I just stayed silent.

I guess that was not the thing to do because she has never said a word to me again. I did reach out and ask if she received my comics and I got silence back. I was ghosted by her, a potential mentor.  To this day, which is almost a year later, she has not said a word to me on Facebook and we do comment on common posts. We agree with things politically and we enjoy the same comic artists and we have so much in common.

I do see from her posts that she travels often and likes to get together with people. I didn’t know. I honestly didn’t mean to offend her. I truly wanted to meet with her and pick her brain, but I guess I wanted to respect her privacy, too and therein lies the rub, I ruined my chance of what could have been something so great. Now I’m on my own again, pushing my comics and trying to get noticed.

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Should I dump the Miami Herald?

newpaperboyI’m quite conflicted these days about dropping home delivery of my daily newspaper. It will be the first time in my life that a daily newspaper will not be delivered to my door. I am including my infant and childhood years, as my parents always had a newspaper or two delivered. In later years it was the Miami Herald, the Miami News and the South Dade News-Leader.

The Miami News is no more and the South Dade News-Leader is not a daily publication and not delivered anymore and the Miami Herald is the only hold out, that and the Sun-Sentinel, which is available daily and is the Ft. Lauderdale newspaper. There was a time when Ft. Lauderdale also had the Ft. Lauderdale News and Hollywood, FL had the Hollywood Sun-Tattler. I used to love that name.

I never liked when the Sun-Sentinel and Ft. Lauderdale News shared exact comic pages when they had a joint operating agreement. With the Herald and the Miami News, they always had their own comics pages and so did the News-Leader and Sun-Tattler.

Anyway, as of late, the Miami Herald delivery person has been screwing up. The paper has been arriving late on a daily basis and the last few days it has not arrived at all. I don’t mean just mine, but the whole neighborhood has not received it’s daily newspaper delivery. Now this is very shocking to me because the Herald has appeared on our doorsteps even when the door step was the only thing left after hurricanes and such. No, really, after Hurricane Andrew blew threw, the only thing left was the Miami Herald there, right on time, on the doorstep the next morning!

So now, I am considering ending home delivery. But then I feel that I am giving in to the way things are in the newspapers business and I don’t want to hurt the newspaper by doing this, but if it’s not being delivered and it’s basically 12 pages now, do I really need it? The comics suck, the Herald had not had decent comics since the 1980s and I read the comics now online and also most of the news I read online.

I have to think this one out.

Happy New Year!

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I’m looking forward to 2018. I don’t know why, I just feel good about it. For one thing, the numbers add up to 11, which is very good and 18 is very good in Jewish/Hebrew. It’s “Chai,” which means “life.”

I feel and see good things coming for me, us and the country. I get premonitions and I feel strong about this.

I will finally get my new comic strip going and that’s probably the best thing for me right now. Stay tooned.

I love my new Superman bookend

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Is this the coolest thing? It’s my latest acquisition, made by a guy in Israel named Ovi Niv. You can get it here, it’s only $25. It was a gift actually. Love it.superman2superman3

I love this Cork Bow Tie, too.  You can get it here. It’s made of natural sustainable cork.

It’s quite thin made of sustainable material, the bark of the cork oak regenerates within 7-9 years after harvest, and the process extends the life of the trees to over 200 years. It’s hand-made in Portugal.bowtie

UPS ruined my cooking experience

I ordered one of those Instant Pots. I have been wanting to make bone soup and other things in a crock pot and I read about this newfangled pot in the NY Times and I ordered it from Amazon.

instantpotIt came in two days. I haven’t tried it yet, I may try to figure it out this weekend.

I do have a complaint though, it’s about the delivery. The UPS driver just threw the box over the gate, you know, like you see on the tv news? I’m assuming this is a delicate piece of equipment and throwing it over the gate isn’t a good thing.

I complained to UPS about the driver and asked why he didn’t ring the bell, which he never does. Their response was that the driver cannot call me and that I should choose another delivery address for deliveries in the future!

I didn’t ask the driver to call me, I asked that they ring the bell and I was home, why would I ask for another delivery address?

So if the food in my Instant Pot comes out bad now, I don’t know if the pot was damaged in delivery or if it’s operator error.

UPS and their stupid response is unacceptable and is a total example of what is wrong with society today.

Is it live or is it Memorex?

25498421_1600075113416938_5282992848606003044_nThis old Memorex ad reminded me of high school. We had an English class called Rock Poetry and we discussed the lyrics and poetry of current rock music. It was a nice class.

The teacher didn’t know much about current music I think because one day she started pulling out cassette tapes that we had brought in (yes, cassettes) and asked, “What should we listen to next? The Beatles? Carol King? The Bee Gees? Memorex?

And we all laughed, and said, No! Memorex is the name of the cassette tape company!” It was so many years ago, but I remember that as if it was yesterday.

There was also this Maxell ad. Remember? It ran all over the place for years. il_570xN.1327002678_3dve

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I did a comic using my character Tombo the Rabbit doing the bit a few years ago.

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